The Zone

With my husband being hurt at work and needing reconstructive surgery on his knee, we have fallen on some hard times and at times, it feels like we are falling apart entirely. which got me to thinking about how life in general can drift us apart from our spouses.

Its so easy for us to get in that comfortable area with our spouse. I'm not talking about the moment you feel comfortable farting around them, or talking to them while they use the bathroom. I'm talking about the comfy zone where you say the "I love you" almost instinctively without thought or feeling. It becomes more like a handshake or a sneeze. Its the zone where you stop paying attention to each others needs because you think they know you love them and that they should be doing this and that for you. Its the zone where you feel under appreciated, un-attractive, sad, stressed, or all of the above.

For the man, they might see themselves taking back burner to the kids, the house, and the stress. I have been admittedly guilty of doing this. We have a large family, which requires attention. But, how well is our family if the mom and dad arent showing love, true heartfelt love? Its useless and not fair to anyone.

Both husband and wife should always strive to show kindness to each other. They should draw near in hard times and find solice in each others love. Does it have to be a fairy tale? No. But both should make a strong effort to at least help one another to see their love. Not just sit back and "let it ride". A marriage is only as strong as your actions to preserve it.